Comments on: The One Secret to Money in Marriage http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/ You haven't budgeted like this. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 04:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: brad http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-449 brad Tue, 14 Apr 2009 21:00:32 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-449 I was married for many years, and have 3 wonderful children. My wife and I clashed over money often, so I had her handle the finances because that is what she wanted. Many years later she sunk us in debt, then decided she found someone new. Neither of them have any money so I get all the debt (It was all in my name anyway). Now I have a mountain of debt and a fiancee. I can't bring myself to relinquish my finances to anyone else again. She does fine but doesn't have the same desire for strict budgeting I do. So we each have our own checking accounts and take a portion of the bills in our name to be responsible for. Over half of my income goes to paying off debt from my previous marriage, and I am not interested in going into debt again. I was married for many years, and have 3 wonderful children. My wife and I clashed over money often, so I had her handle the finances because that is what she wanted. Many years later she sunk us in debt, then decided she found someone new. Neither of them have any money so I get all the debt (It was all in my name anyway). Now I have a mountain of debt and a fiancee. I can’t bring myself to relinquish my finances to anyone else again. She does fine but doesn’t have the same desire for strict budgeting I do. So we each have our own checking accounts and take a portion of the bills in our name to be responsible for. Over half of my income goes to paying off debt from my previous marriage, and I am not interested in going into debt again.

]]> By: toni http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-448 toni Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:16:48 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-448 After reading this i can finally say it is true ! only the opposite way ! I am the one who gets bitchy when my spouse asks about xyc and money has and is causing problems ! But hopefully doing the YNAB budget course will help. After reading this i can finally say it is true ! only the opposite way ! I am the one who gets bitchy when my spouse asks about xyc and money has and is causing problems ! But hopefully doing the YNAB budget course will help.

]]> By: Alissa http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-447 Alissa Thu, 07 Aug 2008 22:45:47 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-447 Jesse- I found YNAB yesterday and I am loving your writing. I have SO much fear around money, but your writing has a great way of cutting right to the point and helping me move through that fear. Having tried so many times to budget and instead winding up flailing around miserably is awful, but I'm determined to stick with it this time (and hopefully NOT be so miserable ;). Anyhow- thanks for the encouragement! We've got a babysitter tomorrow night and will discuss money then. Jesse- I found YNAB yesterday and I am loving your writing. I have SO much fear around money, but your writing has a great way of cutting right to the point and helping me move through that fear. Having tried so many times to budget and instead winding up flailing around miserably is awful, but I’m determined to stick with it this time (and hopefully NOT be so miserable ;). Anyhow- thanks for the encouragement! We’ve got a babysitter tomorrow night and will discuss money then.

]]> By: James@capitalcouplesfinance.com http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-446 James@capitalcouplesfinance.com Thu, 31 Jul 2008 13:10:28 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-446 This is great advice and points to some of the shortcomings many of us have when it comes to dealing with finances in our relationships. Why do many people have some of these problems? I don't know...perhaps it's because people are scared of the problems caused by the mismanagement of their finances. Or perhaps its because people aren't great about communicating in other parts of their relationships? Great question... This is great advice and points to some of the shortcomings many of us have when it comes to dealing with finances in our relationships. Why do many people have some of these problems? I don’t know…perhaps it’s because people are scared of the problems caused by the mismanagement of their finances. Or perhaps its because people aren’t great about communicating in other parts of their relationships? Great question…

]]> By: How to talk openly about money in a marriage - Smart Spending http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-445 How to talk openly about money in a marriage - Smart Spending Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:36:43 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-445 [...] Jesse at You Need a Budget is a personal-finance blogger -- not a marriage counselor. But he has some exceptional advice for couples who don't see eye to eye about money in a post called "The one secret to money in marriage." [...] [...] Jesse at You Need a Budget is a personal-finance blogger — not a marriage counselor. But he has some exceptional advice for couples who don’t see eye to eye about money in a post called “The one secret to money in marriage.” [...]

]]> By: The Family Wallet » Blog Archive » Mid Week Roundup - Teaching Kids About Money, Money Secret, Estate Planning http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-444 The Family Wallet » Blog Archive » Mid Week Roundup - Teaching Kids About Money, Money Secret, Estate Planning Thu, 24 Jul 2008 10:23:25 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-444 [...] You Need A Budget shares the one secret to money in marriage. [...] [...] You Need A Budget shares the one secret to money in marriage. [...]

]]> By: NtJS http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-443 NtJS Tue, 22 Jul 2008 13:17:00 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-443 This is absolutely key. I always cringe when I hear a couple talk about their separate checking accounts, or not knowing what HE does with HIS income, or how he can't tell HER what to do with HER money. Ug. This is absolutely key. I always cringe when I hear a couple talk about their separate checking accounts, or not knowing what HE does with HIS income, or how he can’t tell HER what to do with HER money. Ug.

]]> By: Steven http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-442 Steven Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:23:34 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-442 Lol. No not just yet... But would like to get my hands on the thing soon Lol. No not just yet… But would like to get my hands on the thing soon

]]> By: Jesse http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-441 Jesse Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:14:47 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-441 @Steven, we're very much aware of the demand for the Mac version and we are working as fast as resources allow to have it ready. I do hope you haven't yet gone bankrupt in your wait. @Steven, we’re very much aware of the demand for the Mac version and we are working as fast as resources allow to have it ready. I do hope you haven’t yet gone bankrupt in your wait.

]]> By: Steven http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/2008/the-one-secret-to-money-in-marriage/#comment-440 Steven Mon, 14 Jul 2008 23:06:51 +0000 http://www.youneedabudget.com/blog/?p=187#comment-440 Hello, I've been waiting for the Mac version of YNAB, for some time now. The iPhone is now doing very well, and 'Splash Money' Have already released an App for the iPhone, with the wireless sync, desktop to follow shortly, yet I'm still waiting for "YNAB". It's fair to say at this point, as I'm still unable to find the Mac App, that...YN...TO GET A MOVE ON!! At the rate your going, anyone waiting for "YNAB" would have had to use something else, OR gone bankrupt. Yours...etc...etc and so on. Ps. Pull your finger out. Hello, I’ve been waiting for the Mac version of YNAB, for some time now. The iPhone is now doing very well, and ‘Splash Money’ Have already released an App for the iPhone, with the wireless sync, desktop to follow shortly, yet I’m still waiting for “YNAB”.

It’s fair to say at this point, as I’m still unable to find the Mac App, that…YN…TO GET A MOVE ON!! At the rate your going, anyone waiting for “YNAB” would have had to use something else, OR gone bankrupt.

Yours…etc…etc
and so on.

Ps. Pull your finger out.

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