such as "contingency fund" , "vacation fund" , "first home deposit fund" , "new car fund" , "household items fund" , "new born baby fund" and "investment fund"
The best advice I can give is to prioritize. Pull out a piece of paper. List each item, estimated time line and goal amount. Without a defined goal, you may not stay as focused. Once you have the list. Prioritize. If something is not for a few years, I'd focus more on the other items.
My husband and I just had this same conversation a few weeks ago. We have 6 goals we are working towards. We were putting a little towards each and felt like we were getting no where. Our goals are very similar to yours:
Medical Fund - $500 - ASAP
Dental Fund - $500 - ASAP
Vehicle Maintenance - $1,000 - ASAP
Emergency Fund - $6,000 - ASAP
House Downpayment - $15,000 - September 2012
Vacation - $4,000 - January 2013
Each paycheck any money leftover goes to the top of the list. Once that's full we jump to the next item. Also, if we spend money out of one category, for example we just had maintenance done on a vehicle so it has dipped below the goal. The extra money refills that cateogry until it reaches the goal again. Then we get back on the house downpayment. It's the exact same principle as Dave Ramsey's debt repayment except we get to keep the money!
We already had some funds allocated to each category. We basically took everything out of the categories in YNAB and started at the top of the list filling them in. We had enough to get each category through emergency fund full. So now we are focusing on the house downpayment. Every extra penny goes to that right now.
Going through this exercise helped us focus and realize that we actually had been making more progress than we thought. It helped us discuss what we each need to feel secure (him medical fund, me vehicle maintence). We learned that these two items were causing each of us anxiety b/c they were not fully funded. We decided we wanted to have a 2 month expenses only emergency fund in place before buying a house.
A couple other items that aren't on the list but are floating around for the future are a European Vacation (undefined goal and timeline), new baby fund (undefined goal and we just know it will happen after Europe). We'll add those to the list as they become more defined.
Sorry this is so long winded. I feel you though, we just had this same issue!