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29 Jan 2018

How to Budget as a Couple Without Driving Your Better Half Bananas

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by Shannon Marie

What to Do When Joint-Everything Doesn't Work

At YNAB, we believe that your best bet at attaining financial (and marital) bliss is to work together. To quote, well, us: “When it comes to budgeting with a partner we take a hard line: If you’ve joined your lives, you should join your finances. Joint accounts all the way!

If that approach just doesn’t jive with you—or, worse, it’s an obstacle to getting your other half on board with budgeting—then today’s post may help. Let’s take a look at how you can still achieve a shared, household budget without combining your YNAB, checking, savings and investment accounts.

The Setup

To make this easier to follow, let’s take a peek at how imaginary couple, Jamie and Jordan, manage their individual and shared finances.

First, the basics. For this method, they use the following:

Yes, that comes to a total of three budgets and six accounts, not including investments. (You can see why joint-everything would be simpler, eh?)


When Jamie gets an inflow of new dollars, they’ll be budgeted in Jamie’s YNAB account. Likewise, when Jordan gets an inflow of new dollars, they’ll be budgeted in Jordan’s YNAB account. This gives Jamie and Jordan complete control over how to budget their own dollars, with one caveat: every payday, they’ve both agreed to contribute a predetermined, set amount to the shared, household checking and savings accounts.

In the case of Jamie and Jordan, their contributions are equal. You and your spouse might consider contributing based on a percentage of income, which would likely result in differing contributions to the shared accounts.

Then, together, Jamie and Jordan use the household YNAB budget to assign jobs to the dollars in the household’s checking account. Those dollars cover shared bills and expenses, like mortgage, utilities, entertainment and food.

When they need to fund a goal in the shared budget, Jamie and Jordan save in their individual budgets, first. Then, the month before the goal is due (to be funded), they transfer the money from their personal account to the household account. This is how they manage things like Christmas gifts or semi-annual insurance premiums.

A final note: Jamie and Jordan are wisely thinking ahead, and they’ve set up their household savings account to feed their shared investment account.

The Benefits

This method sounds a bit convoluted looking from the outside, in, but (still imaginary) Jamie and Jordan swear that it’s a cinch. They like this method because:

What You Could Miss

Now, I need to point out that all of the above can be accomplished (and simplified!) by using one budget and one joint-account—the benefits of which are not to be dismissed:

What About Your Household?

How do you and your sweetie keep the peace about money? If you have a story about how you finally got your spouse to budget, how you resolved a quarrel about cash or how you manage your budget together, I’d love to hear it! Email [email protected]

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